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Better Sex: How to Enhance Intimate Sexual Experiences
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Get a Medical Checkup with Your Physician
Deconstructing Sex Drive. What Your Libido Says About Your Health
How Healthy Is Your Pelvic Floor?
Pelvic Muscles and What’s Required for Good Orgasmic Contractions
Fill Your Sexual Toy Chest: Toys Aren’t Just for Kids!
There are a variety of gadgets out there intended to intensify stimulation or increase your ability to feel sensation in different parts of your body. You could have nipple stimulation at the same time that you have other stimulation. Everyone is different; explore what works for you. (Go ahead, you don’t necessarily need a partner for this!)
All Hail Mother’s Little Helper, the Great and Powerful Vibrator
All it wants to do is please you.
“It doesn’t poop out the way a hand or tongue can. A vibrator is steady and consistent,” says Barnard, who is also co-owner of A Woman’s Touch Sexuality Resource Center in Madison, Wisconsin. Vibrators come in all sizes, speeds, materials, and price points, and can hit many erogenous spots or just stay with one. If you are not sure what you like (hard vibrations or gentles pulses?) or how you will use it, choose one that provides adjustable levels of vibration and can be used internally and externally. “Don’t go too complicated or you’ll spend more time figuring out how to use the thing than enjoying the sensations,” says Barnard.
Men aren’t left out of the fun. Barnard recommends:
- Use an erection ring with a vibrator or a vibrator externally on the penis; playing with a vibrator under the head at the frenulum is a good technique to increase the intensity of stimulation of the nerves that trigger orgasm.
- A pump or erection ring can intensify erections. This makes access to the nerves easier.
- Add prostate stimulation with a finger, a prostate stimulator like one of the Aneros devices, or a vibrator intended for prostate stimulation. This stimulates more sensory nerves and can increase the odds of achieving orgasm.
If you are too shy to go to a brick-and-mortar store, turn on the private browser feature on your computer. Plenty of online stores are discreet.
Editorial Sources and Fact-Checking
- Paterson LQP, et al. A Pilot Study of Eight-Session Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy Adapted for Women’s Sexual Interest/Arousal Disorder. Journal of Sexual Research. September 2017.
- Herbenick D, et al. Women’s Experiences With Genital Touching, Sexual Pleasure, and Orgasm: Results From a U.S. Probability Sample of Women Ages 18 to 94. Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy. February 17, 2018.